A recent FORBES.com article by Aimee Groth and Kim Bhasin offers “22 Executives Share The Best Advice They Ever Received.”
As one of the 22 execs profiled, Maria Bartiromo, anchor, CNBC, is quotes as having said (in a 2010 interview with Business Insider)
“My mom says, ‘You have to have alligator skin. You can’t believe the good stuff, and you certainly can’t believe the bad stuff’ and that’s something I’ve come to accept. So when I see someone say anything nice about me in a magazine or anywhere, I probably won’t read it, because I don’t want to be in a place where I start believing my own press releases.”
The truth is, many of us could benefit from believing the good stuff about us. We’re constantly bombarded by ways we’re not measuring up, especially as we compare our career, our title, our relationships, even our parenting or our hobbies.
Building up an arsenal of your good press helps you:
1) When you’ve let something slip through the cracks (and your boss, client or co-worker lets you know) as we all do occasionally, pull out that list of accomplishments — an actual written one or in your head– and review it to get back on track, instead of letting their criticisms get you way off track, with a I-can-never-do-anything-right mantra. Own your mistake, decide to do it differently into the future, and build back onto your success track as quickly as possible.
2) When you are going in to ask for that promotion or raise, it helps to review not only what you have accomplished but your essential qualities that make you a great candidate for not just this new position or salary but for this organization overall. This can include hard numbers you’ve helped achieve, which are not easy to remember, but also more nuanced gains you’ve been a part of. Look over your ‘brag folder’ to remind yourself, and go forth feeling some fear but doing it anyway.
3)If you don’t struggle with this, don’t let those encouraging words go to your head. Why not realize how much they have meant to you and adopt a practice of spreading that encouragement around to your co-workers and clients. The BONUS is that while you are shining a light on them, YOU stand out in their mind, as a great recognizer of others, and that helps your career, too.
Keep a physical file of the commending emails or notes you’ve received and you’ll give yourself an added incentive to go the extra mile again.
You are brilliant!